Thursday, October 10, 2013

Gay, Fat, and in the Closet

I stumbled across this article on BuzzFeed and I got so excited I almost peed my pants!

Before you click on that link let me tell you what it's about. 
It's all about homosexual men and the pressure they feel to maintain the perfect body image. The author discusses coming out of the closet as a gay man, and then was shocked to learn that he is more discriminated against because of his weight than of his sexuality!
 I have a lot of gay guy friends and I have asked several of them to PLEASE be a guest blogger for me on this subject. Unfortunately none of them feel comfortable enough to delve into this subject in the public eye.
I know too many of them who are absolutely handsome and sexy but they have NO confidence. 
It makes me so mad!
I am obviously not a gay man, but this subject really hits home to me because it affects so many of my close friends. I have one friend who literally starves himself before he goes on vacation because he is so scared of what the other gay guys are going to think of him! And he is as thin as a rail! 
Because I struggle with my own self-image so much, I totally relate to the way this community feels. The pressure to look good is across the board, but I see it as an even larger issue among homosexual males. 
This article discusses all of these issues, and is truly a great read. I realize that it might not affect you, but if there is even ONE of my readers who feels the sting of being an overweight gay man, I hope it helps him know that he is not alone.

Nothing has helped me more than the realization that I am not the only person in the world who feels the way I do about my weight. I was in my own sort of "closet" for the longest time. I was in complete denial of who I was, and who I had become. I was too scared for too long to step over the threshold, for fear of what that door would unveil. The decision to come out of my "fat closet" was the hardest thing I've ever done. Pretending to be someone I wasn't was so much easier. It was easy to check the "big and beautiful" box and to call people "haters." It was EASIER to say that other people had a #$%^&#@ problem when I got mean looks. I started blogging so that I couldn't retreat back behind that closet door. Once you're out, there's no going back. Just look at what all I have put out there: food addiction, popping buttons off my jeans, true awareness of how I look... it ain't easy.

Whatever reasons are keeping you in that closet... just know that there are other people in there with you. And guess what? There ARE other people on the other side, too.

Come out of your closet. You will eventually run out of room in there. 
As my mama says when she accidentally farts in public: "there's more room on the outside than the inside."

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